One Month Post Autism Diagnosis

13th December 2017 was a perfect day for diagnosis. That day drew a marker in the sand. Our two year struggle understood and validated by professionals. No one can take that away from us, we fought hard to get here and finally we can move forward. I gathered up all the stress and anxiety from that time, all the tears and tantrums and packaged them neatly in a little box. I sealed it shut, labelled it ‘Chapter 1’ and put it away with all the other things that belonged in 2017.

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The Wind and The Sun

Sonny refused to eat his breakfast. He was reluctant to put on his shoes and at no cost was he going to wear his coat. It was incredibly windy outside and on our walk to school I told him the story of the wind and the sun. If your not familiar with it, it’s one of my favourite Aesop’ s fables. The wind and the sun have a competition to see who can get the little boy to take off his coat. Sonny loved it and he put on his coat and clung to it tighter the harder the wind blew.

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A Perfect Day For Diagnosis

This week, after a nearly two year wait, we received Sonny’s official Diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorder. Two years is a long time to tread water and I’m so relieved it’s finally over.
I needed to have it confirmed what I knew in my heart was true. I needed someone to acknowledge our struggles and tell me this is why. I needed to hear “it’s nothing you’ve done wrong.” I needed that proof and confirmation to be able to tell all those who judge us on face value because ‘Autism doesn’t have a look.’ Autism is a hidden disability.

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Young, SEN and Short Term School Exclusions

There are many things I thought I would never experience as a parent. A long time ago I was guilty of being that ‘judgy’ parent. I would be the lady silently assuming that your child, the one kicking and screaming in the supermarket was plain and simply spoilt. I would see children lashing out and screaming in the faces of their parents and look on in horror thinking ‘my child would NEVER do that.’
‘I would never be THAT parent’

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Treading Water | 18 Months Awaiting Autism Diagnosis

Picture the scene. You’re stuck in the middle of the ocean, no boat and no oars. There’s nothing around you to hold on to, there’s no one to guide you and there’s nothing in the distance signposting help nearby.

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Go Team Green

Not too long after that incident, I sat with the Head Teacher, SENCO and Class Teacher for a good length of time. We discussed his behaviour plan in great depth, what was working well and what wasn’t working so well. We hashed over what we could do to make things better and the outcome was pretty good.

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The Post School Meltdown

On the last day of term, I felt such relief! Finally, we had so much to look forward to. I was excited for the lazy mornings, leisurely afternoons and chilled evenings watching movies, snuggled up together on the sofa. Quality family time. However, Sonny finished reception like a compressed spring. The problem you face with a compressed spring is what happens when you finally decide let it go.

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An Autism Parent Fell Into A Hole

Life with three boys would be challenging for anyone, but throw Autism and the end of the school year into the mix and it’s a whole different field you’re playing in. I’m not afraid of arduous work, but there becomes a point in which enough is enough. ‘You can’t pour from an empty cup’

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The Reality of Autism and Lack of Danger Awareness

This morning Sonny was knocked off his scooter by a car reversing off of it’s drive. The lady in the car appeared to be in a rush. Although she may have saw me walking towards her with the pushchair and Riley next to me, she failed to notice Sonny on his scooter only ever so slightly ahead of me. She obviously thought she could reverse out on to the road with plenty of time and space between us.

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Sonny’s First School Trip

Sonny.
Today you are going on your first ever school trip. You’re off to visit a farm with your 1:1 for the day Mrs H and all your friends at school. You’ve been excited about it for weeks now, asking me every morning if it’s Wednesday yet… if it’s ‘the Wednesday yet. You’ve been reciting the days of the weeks using your fingers in an attempt to work out just how many more days you have left to wait.
The time has finally come, it’s here and you’re off on a coach with the whole of Reception. Are you feeling nervous?

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