Behind The Smiles of Our Autism Family

I’m not a lover of small talk, the ‘are you okay’s’ and the ‘how’ve you been-s.’ It’s kind and polite but I’d much rather a more deep and meaningful conversation. When I first noticed her it started off with half a smile upon our passing. Then it became a quiet ‘hi’ and a smile which soon progressed to a smile and a ‘hello.’ A lady passes us most mornings on route to school, happy, smiling and completely free of judgement at the sight of me, sometimes stressed and often in a hurry, a young girl with three young boys in toe. A few weeks passed quite standardly, weeks of smiles, hello’s and blasé comments about the weather, be it pouring with rain or warm beaming sunshine there was always something to say. I wasn’t a lover of small talk until one day this lady said something to me that took me by surprise.

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Zippy Spinners | Fidget Toys For Autism and Anxiety

From the beginning, Sonny has always been a sensory seeker. As a baby he was a super cuddly-koala clinging-touchy feeling- octopus. As he grew older, he lessened his grip on me and began to enjoy playing with toys of his narrowed interests. Anything trains or Disney’s Cars and Planes, you were sure to get his attention. It didn’t take long for us to notice his constant need for toys in each hand, regardless of what we were doing or where we were going. He never had a dummy or took to a particular teddy for comfort, so I guess his toys were his comforter after all.

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It’s Not The Day For A School Play

Reception performed their school play this morning to their parents and the rest of the school. Except this time, Sonny wasn’t going to be there. We went to school this morning and walked past the long queue of parents, eagerly waiting to get inside and for the play to begin. Me… I walked home feeling just a little disheartened.

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Cold Coffee & A High Five | A Guide To Surviving School Mornings

To the mum that high fived me for getting through another morning school run, I salute you! I see you fellow mamma, looking occasionally rushed and flustered on route to the classroom door. We get one other. We don’t pretend this whole mothering thing is easy. It’s certainly not.

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Autism and The Chicken Pops Diary

Chicken pox. One of childhoods most common illnesses. His two brothers have had it and I had wondered how it would differ for Sonny when he caught it. Would it? How would it? Would it be harder for him, having Autism? His little brother Zachary was poorly with chicken pox two weeks before and I assumed him now knowing what Chicken Pox looked like, may help to prepare him. (Who was I kidding!)

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Meltdown | How Does It Really Feel?

Have you ever felt so angry, so on the edge of control, so at the brink of sanity and rational thought, that it’s scared you? Have you ever been pushed so far, that when despite begging out loud for it to stop, it doesn’t and you explode? Have you ever lost it? Do you remember what that felt like? Red hot blood coursing through your veins that leaves you shaking in despair. The urge to destroy anything and everything that crosses your path. Did you shout and scream? Did you fall down and cry? Did you hide away and not want to come out? Did you throw things and break things and say things you didn’t mean?

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To My Special Needs Sibling | Part 2

Instead he became fond of the softness of the skin on your head as he kissed you. Fond of your little fingers, how they were just like his only very small, and how adorably cute you looked when you smiled at him for the very first time.

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Guest Story by Livia Vass

Livia Vass is a typesetter and mum to two lively boys (one on the spectrum) and two sweet cats. Her son was diagnosed age 9, so they are further along on the autism journey.

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Calm After The Christmas Storm

Every small step for us is an important one. It doesn’t matter if the day doesn’t go to plan, if it isn’t perfect or doesn’t mirror the way everybody else is spending theirs.

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