Please Stop Commenting on my Son’s Weight.

In the last year, Sonny’s physical appearance has changed quite a lot, he has grown tall, so tall! He has lost that dainty little boy look and has grown into a charming young man. Sonny has put on weight. I know. I can see. Yet people continue to comment on my son’s weight. Please stop commenting on my son’s weight. They say it to me like he’s a stranger and no son of mine, hunched towards me, words so whispered they almost make no sound at all. ‘He’s really chunked up hasn’t he!’ ‘He’s got big! He’s put on a lot of weight hasn’t he!’

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Start the day the easy way | Great British Porridge Co

B R E A K F A S T is indeed the most important meal of the day. It breaks the overnight fast and replenishes your body’s supply of glucose and other important nutrients. A good first meal fuels your body with enough energy to see you through to lunch. It’s been well documented that kids who eat breakfast generally have more energy and tend to do better in school. I’ve always been open and honest about the challenges we’ve had with Sonny and school and the struggles we’ve had with his relationship with food. I’m happy to share a brief summary of his journey so far with those that are curious. (Especially to those that feel the need to comment on how ‘nicely covered’ Sonny has become this last year) *Those are my words, not theirs.*

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Mirror Mirror On The Wall. Who’s The Proudest SEN Parent of Them All?

Sonny, I can’t quite fathom just how quickly this year has flown. We are less than two weeks away from the summer holidays. On the other side of summer starts a brand new school year, Year 2 in fact. You really are quite the young man now. Your big brother will be starting Year 4 and possibly the most exciting of all, your baby brother will finally be joining you big boys when he starts in the new Reception class. I envision it now, your wild eyes gleaming at the sight of your baby brother wearing uniform identical to yours and those happy-clappy waving hands when you see him playing in the Reception garden.

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SPACE Helping Families With Children on the Spectrum

Last week I wrote a piece on why I’ve chosen to fundraise for a local charity called SPACE for this years World Autism Awareness Week. I wanted to take the opportunity to explain a little more about the charity and what makes them so worthy of your donation. Space is a Hertfordshire based charity supporting parent/carers of children and young people on the Autistic Spectrum, with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) or a related condition. The group has been running since 2007 and became a registered charity in 2017.

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A Perfect Day For Diagnosis

This week, after a nearly two year wait, we received Sonny’s official Diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorder. Two years is a long time to tread water and I’m so relieved it’s finally over.
I needed to have it confirmed what I knew in my heart was true. I needed someone to acknowledge our struggles and tell me this is why. I needed to hear “it’s nothing you’ve done wrong.” I needed that proof and confirmation to be able to tell all those who judge us on face value because ‘Autism doesn’t have a look.’ Autism is a hidden disability.

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Go Team Green

Not too long after that incident, I sat with the Head Teacher, SENCO and Class Teacher for a good length of time. We discussed his behaviour plan in great depth, what was working well and what wasn’t working so well. We hashed over what we could do to make things better and the outcome was pretty good.

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The Post School Meltdown

On the last day of term, I felt such relief! Finally, we had so much to look forward to. I was excited for the lazy mornings, leisurely afternoons and chilled evenings watching movies, snuggled up together on the sofa. Quality family time. However, Sonny finished reception like a compressed spring. The problem you face with a compressed spring is what happens when you finally decide let it go.

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Sonny’s First School Trip

Sonny.
Today you are going on your first ever school trip. You’re off to visit a farm with your 1:1 for the day Mrs H and all your friends at school. You’ve been excited about it for weeks now, asking me every morning if it’s Wednesday yet… if it’s ‘the Wednesday yet. You’ve been reciting the days of the weeks using your fingers in an attempt to work out just how many more days you have left to wait.
The time has finally come, it’s here and you’re off on a coach with the whole of Reception. Are you feeling nervous?

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‘CATCH!!’ said Cancer 

Just when things settle down and the future you’ve always dreamed of, craved even, is just millimetres from your outstretched fingertips, life throws one hell of a curve ball. I don’t just mean a little hiccup or minor bump in the road, I’m talking CATCH! as quickly as the word sounds, a forceful chest pass, ball-on-fire type curve ball.

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A Guide To Surviving School Mornings

To the mum that high fived me for getting through another morning school run, I salute you! I see you fellow mamma, looking occasionally rushed and flustered on route to the classroom door. We get one other. We don’t pretend this whole mothering thing is easy. It’s certainly not.

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