Please Stop Commenting on my Son’s Weight.

In the last year, Sonny’s physical appearance has changed quite a lot, he has grown tall, so tall! He has lost that dainty little boy look and has grown into a charming young man. Sonny has put on weight. I know. I can see. Yet people continue to comment on my son’s weight. Please stop commenting on my son’s weight. They say it to me like he’s a stranger and no son of mine, hunched towards me, words so whispered they almost make no sound at all. ‘He’s really chunked up hasn’t he!’ ‘He’s got big! He’s put on a lot of weight hasn’t he!’

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Mirror Mirror On The Wall. Who’s The Proudest SEN Parent of Them All?

Sonny, I can’t quite fathom just how quickly this year has flown. We are less than two weeks away from the summer holidays. On the other side of summer starts a brand new school year, Year 2 in fact. You really are quite the young man now. Your big brother will be starting Year 4 and possibly the most exciting of all, your baby brother will finally be joining you big boys when he starts in the new Reception class. I envision it now, your wild eyes gleaming at the sight of your baby brother wearing uniform identical to yours and those happy-clappy waving hands when you see him playing in the Reception garden.

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A Perfect Day For Diagnosis

This week, after a nearly two year wait, we received Sonny’s official Diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorder. Two years is a long time to tread water and I’m so relieved it’s finally over.
I needed to have it confirmed what I knew in my heart was true. I needed someone to acknowledge our struggles and tell me this is why. I needed to hear “it’s nothing you’ve done wrong.” I needed that proof and confirmation to be able to tell all those who judge us on face value because ‘Autism doesn’t have a look.’ Autism is a hidden disability.

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Treading Water | 18 Months Awaiting Autism Diagnosis

Picture the scene. You’re stuck in the middle of the ocean, no boat and no oars. There’s nothing around you to hold on to, there’s no one to guide you and there’s nothing in the distance signposting help nearby.

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