Please Stop Commenting on my Son’s Weight.

In the last year, Sonny’s physical appearance has changed quite a lot, he has grown tall, so tall! He has lost that dainty little boy look and has grown into a charming young man. Sonny has put on weight. I know. I can see. Yet people continue to comment on my son’s weight. Please stop commenting on my son’s weight. They say it to me like he’s a stranger and no son of mine, hunched towards me, words so whispered they almost make no sound at all. ‘He’s really chunked up hasn’t he!’ ‘He’s got big! He’s put on a lot of weight hasn’t he!’

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Mirror Mirror On The Wall. Who’s The Proudest SEN Parent of Them All?

Sonny, I can’t quite fathom just how quickly this year has flown. We are less than two weeks away from the summer holidays. On the other side of summer starts a brand new school year, Year 2 in fact. You really are quite the young man now. Your big brother will be starting Year 4 and possibly the most exciting of all, your baby brother will finally be joining you big boys when he starts in the new Reception class. I envision it now, your wild eyes gleaming at the sight of your baby brother wearing uniform identical to yours and those happy-clappy waving hands when you see him playing in the Reception garden.

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SPACE Helping Families With Children on the Spectrum

Last week I wrote a piece on why I’ve chosen to fundraise for a local charity called SPACE for this years World Autism Awareness Week. I wanted to take the opportunity to explain a little more about the charity and what makes them so worthy of your donation. Space is a Hertfordshire based charity supporting parent/carers of children and young people on the Autistic Spectrum, with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) or a related condition. The group has been running since 2007 and became a registered charity in 2017.

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Growing Pains

With the reality of Sonny turning 6, I feel a monumental shift coming in the dynamics of our family and Autism parenting as I’ve known it to be. A whole new bundle of worries and what if’s.
So why is it that Sonny’s now 6 do I feel apprehensive? I mean we have no upcoming transitional milestones such as his first day of school, first school trip or first sleepover. We’ve accomplished diagnosis. All those milestones have either been and gone or are nowhere close enough for me to start fretting over.

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A Perfect Day For Diagnosis

This week, after a nearly two year wait, we received Sonny’s official Diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorder. Two years is a long time to tread water and I’m so relieved it’s finally over.
I needed to have it confirmed what I knew in my heart was true. I needed someone to acknowledge our struggles and tell me this is why. I needed to hear “it’s nothing you’ve done wrong.” I needed that proof and confirmation to be able to tell all those who judge us on face value because ‘Autism doesn’t have a look.’ Autism is a hidden disability.

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Go Team Green

Not too long after that incident, I sat with the Head Teacher, SENCO and Class Teacher for a good length of time. We discussed his behaviour plan in great depth, what was working well and what wasn’t working so well. We hashed over what we could do to make things better and the outcome was pretty good.

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Behind The Smiles of Our Autism Family

 A lady passes us most mornings on route to school, happy, smiling and completely free of judgement at the sight of me, sometimes stressed and often in a hurry, a young girl with three young boys in toe. A few weeks passed quite standardly, weeks of smiles, hello’s and blasé comments about the weather, be it pouring with rain or warm beaming sunshine there was always something to say. I wasn’t a lover of small talk until one day this lady said something to me that took me by surprise.

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The Village That Raises My Children

We have Grandmothers, Mothers and Aunts. Grandfathers, Fathers, Uncles and even older siblings that share some of the parenting, each with their own important role. Beyond our circle of friends and our family unit, we have teachers.

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I Love You Today Because…

I love you today because one, two, three, four, five years have passed since I gave birth to you. Five little but long years ago, I held you in my arms for the very first time. And since then I have continued to hold you, guide you and protect you from the world that surrounds you. The world that overwhelms you so.

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A Guide To Surviving School Mornings

To the mum that high fived me for getting through another morning school run, I salute you! I see you fellow mamma, looking occasionally rushed and flustered on route to the classroom door. We get one other. We don’t pretend this whole mothering thing is easy. It’s certainly not.

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